CHEATED BY THE OPPOSITE OF LOVE
I had to do a presentation for philosophy this week. It was a group project, so it wasn’t so bad, but it’s not something I particularly enjoyed. My groups topic was “The True Meaning of Being A Girlfriend”. Truly, this was a joke. He really thought we learned from something from this… seriously… We had to do RESEARCH. How do you research that? I typed in ‘relationship’ on WebMD.com and read an issue of Cosmo. That’s as far as my research went.
At the end of the presentation he asked us what we learned and what our ‘criteria’ for a boyfriend would be. It came to be my turn and I said “Yeah, I don’t take dating very seriously, so, I didn’t really learn anything.” Dr. U didn’t really like that response. He said something about having to have an idea of what you wanted out of a boyfriend.
Why do you have to know? Why can’t you just run with it? If you go out with a guy without bias, then there is a chance that you will find something you never knew you were looking for. If you go out with someone thinking you know what you want, when they’re not that, you’ll be disappointed. I don’t take dating very seriously at all, anymore. I like to go out on dates, I like to hang out. When I ask a guy ‘out’, I actually mean out! I know a lot of people who will say something like “would you go out with me” and they mean “I would like us to be instantly exclusive!” That is so junior high! Jesus! We date so that we can get to know the other person. I don’t know why there has to be all this weird pressure for something to ‘come of it’ when we go out with someone.
So, there’s my rant. Everybody needs to chill out about dating. Just because you go out with someone doesn’t mean you must be exclusive. Honestly, I don’t even think that should be even be discussed until you’ve gone out four or five times. Can’t we just hang out and have a good time?
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Extreme!
Fuckin, your instructor is a fagbomb.
I know Dr. U! He’s.. yeah. Haha.
Yes, I think you can just hang out and have a good time. But if you really are interested in someone, there’s always (at least a small) part of you that will want them to be exclusive with you. You know what I mean?
There are Samantha’s out there, yes, and they are kickin’ bitches. But there is something eerie about people like her, something that just doesn’t feel quite right.. or quite genuine. And you’ve even stated in the past that you couldn’t do what she does.
I guess what I’m saying is that yes, you can have a great time with someone you’re moderately interested in. But when you find someone that you really feel for.. really connect with.. nothing can compare to that sort of “good time.”
Hey.